'Act like a Lady, Think like a Man'

'Act like a lady, think like a man' is a book by comedian Steve Harvey and it is all about what men think about romance, love, relationships and that kind of stuff. I am not normally into these self-help, relationship books but a friend of mine gave it to me raving that one has to read it! So i thought i would give it a try...

Now, first off, there should be a warning on this book- "Do not read unless wanted to get married immediately or are over 30 years old!" This book tells you have to get the ring, how to know what he wants, how to handle meeting kids, how to make your family love him. All these are very important things but if you are 22 and in your first serious relationship, these things freak you out! And that is what this book did. I starting asking my boyfriend questions like, "Do you think I am a lady"; "Do you feel like you need me"; "Do you feel like I need you"; "Should i have waited 90 days before getting serious in the relationship" and the ever so famous "is this going to last forever" question...and let me tell you, he thought I had lost the plot. This book, coupled with a friend of mine and her relationship issues, could ruin any functional relationship! Gees louise! Not a fun time!

This is not to say there weren't any good points. The book is amusing- it makes fun of men and their inability to sit and tear apart a woman's every issue for hours on end; it makes fun of women and their crazy obsession with over-reading into everything and some of the stories about couples are do outrageous you can only laugh about them. In addition, it makes you understand (as cheesy as this sounds) how men do show their affection and how you should interpret their actions, and most of all it really drives home how women are in control of what happens to them. This is something that stuck out to me- you are only treated badly if you let yourself be treated that way. Set some standards; make some rules and make sure you VOCALISE these rules, and not in a 'i am telling you telepathically from my brain to yours' way. Decide what you want and tell him and if he really is into you, he will listen and if he thinks you are insane, let him go! Wise words Steve Harvey, wise words!

All in all, this book is fun. You should read it, think for a bit and then put it down and leave it alone and re-read it in 10 years time when you have your life together a bit more; you have a career, a salary, a house and a plan...not when you are sitting on a bed, surrounded by books that are suppose to give you an idea about a thesis topic!

So, if you have a rainy day and want to read something, have a little melt down and nearly ruin your perfectly good relationship...give me a call and i can help you out :-)